I have found an all too common trait in my encounters with men of all different interests, backgrounds, and persuasions. The rhythms of its undertow traits look much different on the outside than it does at the soul level of men. The outward facade projects an image of a man that can play with anybody yet on an inward level it never enters the fields where Jesus plays. In our communique with our Bro-Pal’s we share the same grunts and tones in the common language of man speak, but all too often the base interests and pursuits of our buddies differ greatly to that of our friend Jesus. So infrequent are the relational aspects of our link to one who is supposedly the greatest person of interest on our friends list that Jesus is reduced to just another number on our account list and we have unchecked the follow button. When asked about what Jesus has been throwing out there lately… We come up looking like a deer in headlights! Jesus as an integral part of our community becomes foreign and nonrelational at best! So… I want to pose a question and challenge to you!

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To become like Jesus we need to befriend his emotions. It’s important to appreciate that Jesus is a feeler who experiences and expresses deep and vivid emotions about many things in life. Too often the cultural picture painted around the nature of Jesus is docile at best. A deeper look into the feeling and emotions of Jesus that are recorded in scripture reveal that Jesus lived a wildly passionate, loving, and robust, lifestyle as a man.

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This is a fresh invitation to slow down and thoughtfully consider the lives we find ourselves living in light of the generous offer to not only live in sonship but to wander on the wild path with the map of Sonship that has been given to us by our good Father.

“So if you’re serious about living this new resurrection life with Christ, act like it. Pursue the things over which Christ presides. Don’t shuffle along, eyes to the ground, absorbed with the things right in front of you. Look up, and be alert to what is going on around Christ—that’s where the action is. See things from his perspective.” Colossians 3:1-2 MSG 

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​We have been wrapping trying to wrap our brains around our true identity as men as we discover how we were ultimately created to roll like Jesus did! Finding a treasure map doesn’t mean you will belly up to the challenge of pursuing it! You may stake a claim but never dig in! This example is what I call Gray Exile. We’ll talk more about it at the end of our challenge!

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We have been wrapping trying to wrap our brains around our true identity as men as we discover how we were ultimately created to roll like Jesus did! Finding a treasure map doesn’t mean you will belly up to the challenge of pursuing it! You may stake a claim but never dig in! This example is what I call Gray Exile. We’ll talk more about it at the end of our challenge!
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Although claiming my true identity as a child of God, I still live as though the God to whom I am returning demands an explanation. I still think about his love as conditional and about home as a place I am not yet fully sure of. While walking home, I keep entertaining doubts about whether I will be truly welcome when I get there. As I look at my spiritual journey, my long and fatiguing trip home, I see how full it is of guilt about the past and worries about the future. I realize my failures and know that I have lost the dignity of my sonship, but I am not yet able to fully believe that where my failings are great, ‘grace is always greater.' Still clinging to my sense of worthlessness, I project for myself a place far below that which belongs to the son.” ― Henri J.M. Nouwen, The Return of the Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming

What was Jesus’ approach as a Man?

I have always loved exploring the tensions created by Jesus as He lived out the examples of how we could do life in His Kingdom. The man who brought freedom to all mankind is seen In Luke 19 where His story plays out in the midst of a facade of pomp and glory during His Triumphal Entry into Jerusalem.
But note His approach a the Man/Son of God. Jesus the Man… Wasn’t…

• Positioning Himself as the one to rule a nation that was oppressed.
• He wasn’t about prosperity or making things better in the Jews society.
• He didn’t even put on a display that would affirm Himself as the ruler of the region.

How does that differ from our approach as men?

Also, in the story of Luke 19 we see that once again, the Jews find themselves oppressed, not by the Syrians, but by the Romans. Consequently, what the people were essentially saying when they cried Hosanna and waved palm branches as Jesus rode into Jerusalem, was, `Deliver us from the Romans.’ Right! And, when they realized Jesus had a different agenda than a political one, a different agenda than a national one, a different agenda than a material one — their cry changed from `Hosanna' to `Crucify him.'

The same is still true and has played out over and over again throughout history. In fact, it seems to play out over and over again in well meaning Christians who don’t follow the path Jesus laid out for setting up His Kingdom.
I have watched Christians individually, and churches corporately, mobilize around causes, personalities, and methodologies to unlock the way to victorious, joyful, christian living. They are all about change or gaining power under the banner of pseudo spirituality gain, power, and even prophecy but, very few are interested in the path that leads to the foot of a bloody cross. Even fewer consider a navigational path that will require dying to self and living for eternity. You see, it's one thing to shout I’m a son, or to boast of a special inside edge for everyday living, realizing success, power, and the mastery of your domain. It is altogether something else to take the path of Jesus and follow His navigational path to the Cross in the way that He did as He enjoyed his Sonship. Leading in our spirituality, our relationships, and our communities will never be easy! However, there is treasure, not just at the finish line but at every point on the map!

Back to our story. While the people were in the midst of a hopeful government take over, Jesus rides in on a donkey and begins to weep. He weeps because the city-and, by extension, all Israel was looking for the next great man of power who would bring peace and prosperity, and they failed to recognize Jesus and his lordship. They failed to follow His Map of Sonship!

Now, Jesus knew of the impending destruction of Jerusalem and the scene echo’s with his previous lament over Jerusalem from (Luke 13:31-35), where He said, “How often would I have gathered your children together as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, and you were not willing!" They were so hung up on their freedom from Roman oppression, the need for a great ruler, someone to fight for them militarily, that they missed the one who could free them in every way and from the burden of sin.

Are you Willing?

His example of a lamb being led to slaughter for the purpose of bringing freedom to all is nowhere taught or found in our "Save Now!” culture. and “The Map of Sonship” (Word of God) is being treated as a childhood fantasy that is fun to dream about.

Now, I don’t share these thoughts to discourage you from being everything we should be as men. I share it for the purpose of posing the most important question you may ever ask yourself in these last moments before Jesus returns in all of His glory.

All the mastery of power, success, and authority in the world won’t get us into God's Kingdom.

Here is our Fireside Challenge for Men.

You are being invited to ask yourselves… Has your search for a little more peace, joy , hope, and freedom left you discouraged, dismayed, and even hopeless?’ If it has, then ask yourself,
• ‘Has my personal expectations caused me to navigate off coarse? Off coarse of God’s Map for us the was given from the beginning, in the Garden!
• Has it caused me to avoid what the map says about the path of greatness that The Son of God laid out for me so that all of the power, authority, and success of God could be made manifest through my life.
• Or, have I been missing Jesus all together?

​So, Take a Pulse!

The more I look at things on a world, cultural, economic, and social scale, the more I know that things are not getting better. That seems to be the Pulse and Rhythm of things in the Kingdom of the World! But… The more I fix my eyes on Jesus, the more the pursuit of happiness and power in the kingdom of this world becomes less important and all together insignificant and I am becoming less inclined to let life rattle me at my core. This really is the foundational basis for experiencing The Kingdom of God in our lives.

Always remember that we are not hardwired to pursue power; We were however hardwired to manifest His power for His glory and that it has been intent of our Father all along for you to experience it everyday through His Son! He should be at the core of everything we do and everywhere we go. He is the Treasure! Stay the coarse!

Ask the Holy Spirit to speak on Word as we read through Psalm 51:10-13 NIV. 10 Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. 11 Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. 12 Restore to me the joy of your salvatioN and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me. 13 Then I will teach transgressors your ways so that sinners will turn back to you.
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Ask the Holy Spirit to give a phrase that resonates in your heart as we read through Psalms 51:10-13 MSG 10 God, make a fresh start in me, shape a Genesis week from the chaos of my life. 11 Don't throw me out with the trash, or fail to breathe holiness in me. 12 Bring me back from gray exile, put a fresh wind in my sails! 13 Give me a job teaching rebels your ways so the lost can find their way home. Now Pray through this passage of Scripture!

In his book, “The Return of the Prodigal Son:” Henri J.M. Nouwen, writes a segment called “A Story of Homecoming.” He writes this about the characteristics of his Sonship. See if you can relate! ~ “Although claiming my true identity as a child of God, I still live as though the God to whom I am returning demands an explanation. I still think about his love as conditional and about home as a place I am not yet fully sure of. While walking home, I keep entertaining doubts about whether I will be truly welcome when I get there. As I look at my spiritual journey, (I see it as) my long and fatiguing trip home, I see how full it is of guilt about the past and worries about the future. I realize my failures and know that I have lost the dignity of my sonship, (and still…) I am not yet able to fully believe that where my failings are great, 'grace is always greater.' Still clinging to my sense of worthlessness, I project for myself a place far below that which belongs to the son.”

Here is what we want you to understand about Fireside Challenges. These are not opportunities for sanctimonious advice from someone who has never suffered from the blows from their own depravity, or pontification from men who have never gotten their hands dirty, or had their heart broken. They will always be offered for you as an encouragement to go where most men do not go. It is an invitation to embark on a new journey and a call to courageously pursue the things that are real, honest, and true.
It is for the hungry soul who is daring enough to go against the cultural facades of Christianity and religiosity to actually pursue the heart of God with voracity and the intent of finding our true calling.
If you are in the process of determining if this is for you and you do choose to embark on this journey, I want you to know up front that it is not another bible study but what it really is will require a trip into the cellar of your own dark soul and then turning on the light switch. You will have to turn over the skeletal lies, scars, and fears that you have buried deep within, and begin to discipline yourself to ignore the accusations of others who would leave you bound in darkness. You will be presented with the opportunity of embarking on a new journey in the light, as you see yourself through the lens of Jesus. This is where Sonship redeems your ugly narrative and brings beauty into it.

So, ask yourself if you can allow the scars of your story to become the proof that you have embarked on a rescue mission to steal back from the enemy, your own heart and replacing it with a heart after God.
Will you allow the paradigm of yourself to be shattered into His Image? Will you trade up for the restoration of the image your Heavenly Father has hardwired you for, written on your heart, and redeemed for you?
I want to challenge everyone here to awaken their hunger for moving forward in life with hope, to live true, and to become the person that God can entrust with so much more! The things that pertain to life and Godliness.
My prayer during these challenges is that you will enter the quiet, unvisited places of your soul and then exit having redeemed the most radical reorientations of you lifetime. This is the life of Sonship! Here’s the good news... It’s for every kind of man that has been hardwired by our Creator to thrive as His children. Everyone!
Sooo… Get ready to explore the way that God has hardwired us as well as understanding the desires that He places on our hearts. You are about to see the simplistic plan of God through the Word of God.

Hardwired for Greatness

As we look at The Map of Sonship. (Scriptures) You will see how God made us along with the desires He has placed on our hearts. Sonship is the path to fullness, and the fulfillment of all those desires that He places on our heart. 
Side Note! (Cartography is a system of information which is used to communicate something of the real world to other people; the map is a model, to be decoded by the map reader).

The cartography of the Map of Sonship lays out the contour lines of a healthy, vibrant soul that has a heart after God. It is not the pursuit of power but a path of freedom that is only fully provided or realized through the grace of the only begotten Son of God, the wonder working power of His shed blood, and the hardwiring that came through the finished work on the Cross of Calvary. 

You Have the Map?

As a child, Did you ever follow a special treasure map? A map that marks the location of a buried treasure? Have you ever searched for a lost place, or something of value that is made secret or hidden. Perhaps it was hidden from you, by your enemy, or by personal a choice to not believe that there is actually any treasure on the map. 

This is the common narrative of fictional stories but, what if I were to tell you that there was a real map breathed and designed by the very Spirit of God Himself and that it leads us on a path called Sonship?
What if I told you that this map provided everything you needed for your journey and that as you embarked on this path of discovery you would find more treasure than you could ever imagine?
The map we are about to discuss will provide you with everything you need to start your journey on that path and give you the coordinates to the place of Sonship.

Now... Spoiler alert! You can enjoy your treasure before the start of the journey, enjoy your treasure in the journey, and share your treasure with everyone else on the journey without any fear of never finding it, running out, or loosing it!     

In our Map it all Starts in the Garden!

There is a quote that I love! It says… “As a giant oak is hidden in the seed of an acorn, the intention of God is seeded in the heart of man to rule with power and authority from Him and not of ourselves”.

The First Waypoint

In Genesis, God takes the lid off of his intentions for us and lets us in on one of the most outrageous plans. We’ll call this the first waypoint! In this plan, and after the creation of all things, He hands it all over to non other than the original Adam Bomb and His wife Eve, as a gift that would give them full authority and power to be the rulers of the earth. It is this portion of the map that the true heart of God for mankind (You and Me) is found. Good news! It all starts with a little nut!

So… Let’s Hover on the First Waypoint Together!

Because this is the single most foundational aspect to enjoying the journey and enjoying our sonship we want to give you the opportunity to understand the directions provided In this Map of Sonship.
We are going to read and study the cartography of our map 3 times • The first time we will ask the Holy Spirit to reveal something from the Map • The second time will ask the Lord from our heart what He might requiring of us as He reveals his direction for us individually. • The last time we read through prayerfully thanking the Lord for revealing the next steps, get excited about your journey, and then share your some of your personal findings were with the rest of your tribe!

Genesis 1:26-28 MSG.
God spoke: “Let us make human beings in our image, make them, reflecting our nature, So they can be responsible for the fish in the sea, the birds in the air, the cattle, And, yes, Earth itself, and every animal that moves on the face of Earth.”God created human beings; He created them godlike, reflecting God’s nature. He created them male and female. God blessed them: “Prosper! Reproduce! Fill Earth! Take charge! Thrive! Be responsible for fish in the sea and birds in the air, for every living thing that moves on the face of Earth.

This is how you were Created!
This is how you were Hardwired!
This is where you Thrive as Men!

”Application Question: How has your the image of yourself, as men, changed since we began this challenge?
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You may have heard all of this before! You may have never heard it at all! Whatever the case… we want to welcome you on a Wild Journey, on the Path of Jesus, and to enjoy your Sonship…. Son’s!

An Invitation to Live Wild and Engaged

All too often when inevitable pain comes it’s too late to consider how we will allow ourselves to be shaped by it. If we as men fail to thoroughly anticipate how we will respond to the harm of living in a fallen world, the pain may be for not. It will either numb us or destroy us rather than refine and even bless us. Suffering, pain, failure, and setbacks, need not destroy the heart of anyone God loves! In fact, all of these experiences have the potential to lead to life but very few people I know suffer deeply and profit from it.  
 
In Men, pain is seldom expected or embraced when it comes so, it is often denied or swept under the spiritual rug of Gods sovereignty. The apostle Paul tells us that, as we grown inwardly, we wait eagerly for our final redemption. But few of us, enter the tragedy of living in a fallen world, and simultaneously struggle with God perpetually until we finally surrender and our heart is renewed with hope.

Men often settle for an artificial resolution to our pain or we will ignore and disassociate ourselves with it altogether. We roll under the old cliche’ of (No blood, No Sympathy!) We must understand that God‘s perspective on suffering is very different. He loves us so much that He invites us on a healing journey through the valleys, and over the cliffs of an evil world, but we often miss out on his redemptive, and restorative path so, many of us suffer for no reason.

The core of what makes us human beings in Gods image is our capacity for Faith Hope and Love yet we live in a culture that has spends unprecedented time and energy, wallowing in our pain. Can you relate presently? It becomes clear that many of us are carrying , deep hurt simply because whether intentionally or unintentionally provoked or unprovoked, we opt to carry our own burdens instead of casting our burdens and pain on Him.

It has become clear to me what the evil in this world is doing to harm all of our hearts and to darken our love for God and others. No matter who we are, we all need the good news of the healing power of redemption and the freedom to receive restoration and renovation: right now, where we are at, without judgment from each other and the work around us.

Good healing in this life of being men is not the resolution of our past. It is a simple yoke with Jesus! It is only there that we can receive a new understanding of how to deal with past hurts, the damage to the human spirit, while charting a path toward the wild, robust, abundant, thriving, life that God promises those He loves! That is you, right now, just the way you are! No prequalification.

The only One who can make perfect sense of the pain we endure is the One who endured the pain of the Cross, the One who bore our sorrows and the pain that we have caused. He took it all upon Himself for me and you so that we could live life a life of abundance, resilience, and redemption. Cast your pain on Him!

Jesus was a Wild Man!

The Unforced Rhythms of Grace and The Wild Rhythms of Jesus.
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Matthew 11:20-30 
Next Jesus unleashed on the cities where he had worked the hardest but whose people had responded the least, shrugging their shoulders and going their own way.

21-24 “Doom to you, Chorazin! Doom, Bethsaida! If Tyre and Sidon had seen half of the powerful miracles you have seen, they would have been on their knees in a minute. At Judgment Day they’ll get off easy compared to you. And Capernaum! With all your peacock strutting, you are going to end up in the abyss. If the people of Sodom had had your chances, the city would still be around. At Judgment Day they’ll get off easy compared to you.”

I get the impression that as a man Jesus on occasion could get really ticked off at  some folks. Does this ring true for you?

25-26 Abruptly Jesus broke into prayer: “Thank you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth. You’ve concealed your ways from sophisticates and know-it-alls, but spelled them out clearly to ordinary people. Yes, Father, that’s the way you like to work.”

Evidently Jesus had developed a mechanism that when He was really upset with those who didn’t get it, He would default to conversation with His Father. (Go Figure!)

27a. Jesus resumed talking to the people, but now tenderly. “The Father has given me all these things to do and say. This is a unique Father-Son operation, coming out of Father and Son intimacies and knowledge. No one knows the Son the way the Father does, nor the Father the way the Son does…..

It’s safe to draw the correlation that Jesus as a man experienced all of the pain, anger, and disappointments that we do as men but that He was governed by His Father in such a relational way that even though He could unleash on folks there was a rhythm at work that allowed him to also communicate with the Father, and be tender towards others at the same time.

Are you ready for a Wild Invitation?

Jesus continues with an invitation to Yolk with Him on a Wild Path by saying…
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27b… But I’m not keeping it to myself; I’m ready to go over it line by line with anyone willing to listen. And then He says this…

28-30 “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”

Challenge: Live Wild, Yoke with Jesus!

If you are thinking of accepting this challenge, you are in the right place, with the right men, right now! Our heart for you is that as we come together to “Keep Company” with Jesus that this wild way of living on the Path of Jesus will spread like wildfire. That you will take it with you into your own life, your families, and communities, because you are accepting an invitation to the rhythms  that Jesus chooses to manifest his glory though. Are you daring enough to allow those around you to see radical change in your life as you go deep with Jesus! It’s risky! It’s even a little scary because your wife, or your kids, your grandchildren, your community may not have seen the wild side of Jesus being lived out in your life.

So… If you are looking for a community of misfits who are committed to taking very deep dives into our relationship with Jesus. If you are willing to confront the fears, failures, and set backs in your life by casting your cares on Him, and If you are interested in becoming a more thriving, vibrant, robust, man and leader, Then we hope that you will walk with us into an Easy Yolk with Jesus and join with this group of men who intend to walk Wild on the Path, and extend the invitation to all of the other misfit men you come in contact with.
We believe that the most timely thing we can do in our culture is to lead other men into a deep relationship and Wild walk with Jesus on His Path.
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We look forward to what He will do in us as Men.

​MEN LIVING AND LEADING THEIR FAMILIES. WILD ON A PATH OF DISCOVERING THEIR OWN WILD HEART — EXPERIENCING A LIFE OF JOY, UNTAMED PASSION, AND FREEDOM. REAL MEN WHO CREATE A SPACE WHERE THOSE THEY LOVE CAN GROW, THRIVE AND FOLLOW THEIR LEAD. JOIN THE TRIBE!

WILD ON THE PATH is a place for men to come into their own, to figure out how we are uniquely hardwired, and lead our families. It is a community of men sharing in their commonality, discovering how to live from a wild heart for God, pursuing a life of passion, adventure and freedom, walking with God on a path to become the men and leaders that He created us to be. That is to say, "Wild on the Path!" It is also a place for family and friends to help inspire the men who lead them!
We hope that you will choose to take this journey with us as not only men, but as brothers, seeking to thrive in our uniqueness on the wild path of Jesus and that you will become the leader you were intended to be!
At some point in our lives, either through disrupting circumstances or in response to the deep cry of our hearts for more, most of us come to realize that our daily lives are far away from the true desires we have deep in our hearts, and from the promise that Jesus offers from the depths of his own heart…

“I came so that they may have real and eternal life— more and better life than they ever dreamed of” (John 10:10 - MSG).
At this crucial point, in his love, God is offering us the possibility to stop, reflect, and ask the kind of questions that will help us redirect: So ask yourself..

• WHAT KIND OF LIFE AM I EXPERIENCING?
• AM I UNSATISFIED OR STUCK IN A RUT?
• WHAT KIND OF MAN HAVE I BECOME?
• DO I KNOW MY VALUE?
• WHAT KIND OF IMPACT AM I HAVING ON THOSE I LOVE?
•DO THEY RESPECT ME AND LOOK TO ME AS A LEADER?
What if there is more!— what if there is a path to experience that “life to the fullest” that Jesus talks about? What if you could live with passion, adventure and freedom, with a true sense of meaning and purpose while becoming the man God created you to be? And what if from the overflow of who you are becoming you could create an atmosphere of love, joy and peace where those you love grow and thrive under Your care?
There is a path that only gets followed by a few who are wild enough to journey on it, those who choose to walk it come to know that it leads to life well lived, but it is a process that they have submitted themselves to so that they can become that kind of man. This wild path is out there! It is available to those few willing to accept God’s invitation to be shaped, formed and forged by Him into the tribe of men He created them to be. These are men who choose to live as part of this wild tribe on the path! We invite you to join us on this wild path!
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“This is what the Lord says: “Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls. Jeremiah 6:16.

Every man asks the question at some point in time or another. "How was I supposed to feel?" In a culture that has emasculated men at every turn men don't really know how to act or feel. Any attempt to stand up in the way we are individually hardwired is met with resistance, wokeness, and even the deconstruction of everything we know  that is considered manly. We hope that this short journal will help you determine how to better lead, serve and love in the way that Jesus hardwired us to be as men when he experienced everything that we do.
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…For I’m trained in the secret of overcoming all things, whether in fullness or in hunger. And I find that the strength of Christ’s explosive power infuses me to conquer every difficulty.—Paul. Philippians 4:12-13 [The Passion Translation].

​To become like Jesus we need to befriend his emotions. It’s important to appreciate that Jesus is a feeler who experiences and expresses deep and vivid emotions about many things in life. Too often the cultural picture painted around the nature of Jesus is docile at best. A deeper look into the feeling and emotions of Jesus that are recorded in scripture reveal that Jesus lived a wildly passionate, loving, and robust, lifestyle as a man.
Most don’t like to hear this kind of terminology in relationship to the emotions of Jesus but He truly was a was a feeler and still is! You might take issue with that statement as a man, in fact most Christian leaders today seem to. We’ve been very busy emasculating the very true nature of men as seen in the life of Jesus for quite some time in our church culture. Early in my life and even in ministry, I was discipled to disregard my emotions and soon became captive to a host of feelings and emotions that were labeled as insignificant and I was shamed as being over emotional, too sensitive. In todays culture, No adult man wants to be spanked and labeled as someone who overreacts to shame! (butt•hurt). Thus, even in matters of spirituality; if I did not comply with the religious mindset or If I rallied with empathy to those who were being who were being religiously shamed for sin; I would be spiritually emasculated, deprived of my ministry role and identity, and shamed into following the religious mindset and protocol as a young Pastor.
The truth is that Jesus felt all the struggles that we do. He was despised and rejected of men and experienced everything that we do including temptations to sin, so he empathizes with us to help us grow in emotional wholeness and holiness
Hebrews 4:15. He understands humanity, for as a man, our magnificent King-Priest was tempted in every way just as we are, and conquered sin.
If we admire and bond with Jesus the Feeler, then it will help us put more value on the emotions that we and other people have. It will encourage us to convey more emotion in our relating, praying, leading, preaching, and teaching. It will help us to clothe ourselves with the compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience of Christ and to love and lead our families and those around us.
Colossians 3:12. You are always and dearly loved by God! So robe yourself with virtues of God, since you have been divinely chosen to be holy. Be merciful as you endeavor to understand others, and be compassionate, showing kindness toward all. Be gentle and humble, unoffendable in your patience with others.
Social psychology research backs this way of thinking about feelings by showing that emotional intelligence or our (EQ) is the key to success in relationships and work and it starts with a self-awareness of how we feel as individual men and women along with the understanding that Jesus felt the same things that we do.
In the Bible, Jesus demonstrates the full range of human emotions and expresses them in perfect love. We will start by identifying over 39 different emotions that Jesus experienced. That’s a lot of emotions! Personally, as men we may not be able to even name 39 different emotions, much less feel and verbalize them as easily as women might!
Note! I am not advocating that a man should go through life whining about every little thing that gets in their craw! On the other hand, the term “Man-Up” has been all too often used as an excuse to be unempathetic towards each other. As spiritually healthy men, we should be in touch with the feelings and emotions that will cause isolation, unhealthy independence, and those things that will keep us from living as a king, a leader, and  a lover of our family, our community, and the world around us.
I have taken these examples from a truly important guide to my personal spiritual direction named Bill Gaultiere. Bill has grouped 39 feelings and their Bible references into eleven core emotions: anxiety, anger, shame, sadness, pain, surprise, hope, faith, love, joy, and peace. Each offers a mirror to help us to verbalize our emotions and receive Jesus’ empathy… It is also important to note that Jesus took upon Himself all of the feelings and emotions that we experience when he received 39 lashes on his back. I have highlighted more than 39 because that is just how complete the work of the Cross is! It goes far beyond any feeling or emotion that I can experience.
These are eleven emotion words that Jesus experienced, and that we also experience, they are not just emotions — they’re conditions of a whole person. They include emotions, as well as intentions, attitudes, physical states, and relational postures. (They are seen in the outflow of Jesus’ nature and character as a reference to what we experience as Christ is lived through us.)
As you consider Jesus’ 39 emotional states below, let them serve as a mirror to you. Our Lord is reflecting to us the language of feelings:
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Anxiety
Preparing to go to the cross, Jesus prayed with such great anxiety that he sweat drops of blood
Luke 22:44. He prayed even more passionately, like one being sacrificed, until he was in such intense agony of spirit that his sweat became drops of blood, dripping onto the ground.
He also felt afraid!
Hebrews 5:7. During Christ’s days on earth he pleaded with God, praying with passion and with tearful agony that God would spare him from death. And because of his perfect devotion his prayer was answered and he was delivered.
Pressured
Luke 12:50. But first I must be immersed into the baptism of God’s judgment, and I am consumed with passion as I await its fulfillment
Troubled
John 11:33; 12:27 When Jesus looked at Mary and saw her weeping at his feet, and all her friends who were with her grieving, he shuddered with emotion and was deeply moved with tenderness and compassion. - “Even though I am torn within, and my soul is in turmoil, I will not ask the Father to rescue me from this hour of trial. For I have come to fulfill my purpose—to offer myself to God.
Terrified.
Mark 14:33. He took Peter, Jacob, and John with him. An intense feeling of great horror plunged his soul into deep sorrow. And he said to them, “My heart is overwhelmed with anguish and crushed with grief. It feels as though I’m dying. Stay here and keep watch with me.”

Anger
Jesus was angry with the Pharisees who opposed him healing the man with a deformed hand on the Sabbath.
(Mark 3:5). Then looking around at everyone, Jesus was moved with indignation and grieved by the hardness of their hearts and said to the man, “Now stretch out your hand!” As he stretched out his hand, it was instantly healed.
He also felt boiling passion
(John 2:17) That’s when his disciples remembered the Scripture: “I am consumed with a fiery passion to keep your house pure!”
Stern displeasure
(John 11:33, 39) When Jesus looked at Mary and saw her weeping at his feet, and all her friends who were with her grieving, he shuddered with emotion and was deeply moved with tenderness and compassion. He said to them, “Where did you bury him?”
“Lord, come with us and we’ll show you,” they replied.
Then tears streamed down Jesus’ face.
Seeing Jesus weep caused many of the mourners to say, “Look how much he loved Lazarus.” Yet others said, “Isn’t this the One who opens blind eyes? Why didn’t he do something to keep Lazarus from dying?”
Then Jesus, with intense emotions, came to the tomb—a cave with a stone placed over its entrance. Jesus told them, “Roll away the stone.”
Then Martha said, “But Lord, it’s been four days since he died—by now his body is already decomposing!”
Jesus looked at her and said, “Didn’t I tell you that if you will believe in me, you will see God unveil his power?”
He was also indignant!
(Mark 10:14-15). When Jesus saw what was happening, he became indignant with his disciples and said to them, “Let all the little children come to me and never hinder them! Don’t you know that God’s kingdom exists for such as these? Listen to the truth I speak: Whoever does not open their arms to receive God’s kingdom like a teachable child will never enter it.”

Shame
By choice, Jesus experienced a shameful death on the cross for our sins
(Hebrews 12:2). We look away from the natural realm and we focus our attention and expectation onto Jesus who birthed faith within us and who leads us forward into faith’s perfection. His example is this: Because his heart was focused on the joy of knowing that you would be his, he endured the agony of the cross and conquered its humiliation, and now sits exalted at the right hand of the throne of God!
He also felt depressed
(Mark 14:33) and forsaken (Mark 15:34).

Sadness
From the Mount of Olives, Jesus looked down on Jerusalem and wept with sadness because they rejected God’s offer of peace
(Luke 19:41-42). When Jesus caught sight of the city, he burst into tears with uncontrollable weeping over Jerusalem, saying, “If only you could recognize that this day peace is within your reach! But you cannot see it.
He also felt grief
(Mark 3:5), deep sighs (Mark 8:12), deep distress (Matthew 26:37), crushing grief (Mark 14:34), and tearful (John 11:35, 43).

Pain
Jesus experienced terrible pain when he was flogged.
(Mark 15:15). Because he wanted to please the people, Pilate released Barabbas to them. After he had Jesus severely beaten with a whip made of leather straps and embedded with metal, he sentenced him to be crucified.
He also suffered (Luke 24:26, Hebrews 2:18, 1 Peter 2:21), and was hungry (Matthew 4:2, 21:18), thirsty (John 19:28), and weary (John 4:6).

Surprise
Jesus felt amazed by the faith of the Roman officer
(Luke 7:9). Jesus marveled at this. He turned around and said to the crowd who had followed him, “Listen, everyone! Never have I found among the people of God a man like this who believes so strongly in me.”
He also felt astonished as he prayed to his Abba about his cross (Mark 14:33).

Hope
Jesus’ love for God and us comes from his hope 
(1 Corinthians 13:7 Love is a safe place of shelter, for it never stops believing the best for others. Love never takes failure as defeat, for it never gives up.
(Colossians 1:5). Your faith and love rise within you as you access all the treasures of your inheritance stored up in the heavenly realm. For the revelation of the true gospel is as real today as the day you first heard of our glorious hope, now that you have believed in the truth of the gospel.
This is the wonderful message that is being spread everywhere, powerfully changing hearts throughout the earth, just like it has changed you! Every believer of this good news bears the fruit of eternal life as they experience the reality of God’s grace.
He also felt curious (Luke 19:5).

Faith
Jesus lived by faith (confident trust) in God, showing us how to do it. (Paul says, "I live by the faith of Christ" in…
(Galatians 2:20). My old identity has been co-crucified with Christ and no longer lives. And now the essence of this new life is no longer mine, for the Anointed One lives his life through me— we live in union as one! My new life is empowered by the faith of the Son of God who loves me so much that he gave himself for me, dispensing his life into mine!
See also John 15:12.)

Love
Jesus felt genuine love for people like the Rich Young Ruler (Mark 10:21), Martha, Mary, and Lazarus (John 11:5), and his disciples as he washed their feet (John 13:1).
He had deep friendship love that altered his movements as a man. So much so that He returned back to the area where they were going to stone himhim instead of isolating.
(John 11:1-11) In the village of Bethany there was a man named Lazarus, and his sisters, Mary and Martha. Mary was the one who would anoint Jesus’ feet with costly perfume and dry his feet with her long hair. One day Lazarus became very sick to the point of death. So his sisters sent a message to Jesus, “Lord, our brother Lazarus, the one you love, is very sick. Please come!”
When he heard this, he said, “This sickness will not end in death for Lazarus, but will bring glory and praise to God. This will reveal the greatness of the Son of God by what takes place.”
Now even though Jesus loved Mary, Martha, and Lazarus, he remained where he was for two more days. Finally, on the third day, he said to his disciples, “Come. It’s time to go to Bethany.”
“But Teacher,” they said to him, “do you really want to go back there? It was just a short time ago the people of Judea were going to stone you!”
Jesus replied, “Are there not twelve hours of daylight in every day? You can go through a day without the fear of stumbling when you walk in the One who gives light to the world. But you will stumble when the light is not in you, for you’ll be walking in the dark.”
Then Jesus added, “Lazarus, our friend, has just fallen asleep. It’s time that I go and awaken him.”
He felt compassion. (Matthew 9:36; 14:14; 15:32; 20:34), and sympathy (Hebrews 4:15).

Joy
Jesus was exceedingly joyful when he saw that 72 ordinary disciples were able to minister the power of God’s kingdom to people (Luke 10:21). He also felt rejoicing (John 15:11; 17:13), glad (John 11:15), and thankful (Matthew 11:25).
Hebrews 1:9 says, “Jesus was anointed with the oil of gladness “more than any of His fellows.” That is, He had a gladness about Him that was unparalleled in any other person. Truly, whoever looks at the Lord cannot help but be impressed with Him. One would think however, that the secret to such attractiveness, effectiveness, and joy would be very complex. One would think that Jesus must have understood esoteric mysteries and implemented difficult methodology. But such is not the case, for throughout the scriptures, we see the simplicity of the secret Jesus understood that produced in Him the life that was so successful and so beautiful. What was this secret? The very foundational principle that governed His entire life was His relationship with His Father. Jesus would pause for union with the Father so frequently that He would proclaim to His followers, “I and my Father are ONE! And, If you have seen me, you have seen the Father.”

Peace
Jesus felt peace from heaven’s world and shared this with his disciples before he died
(John 14:27). “I leave the gift of peace with you—my peace. Not the kind of fragile peace given by the world, but my perfect peace. Don’t yield to fear or be troubled in your hearts—instead, be courageous! “Remember what I’ve told you, that I must go away, but I promise to come back to you. So if you truly love me, you will be glad for me, since I’m returning to my Father, who is greater than I. So when all of these things happen, you will still trust and cling to me. I won’t speak with you much longer, for the ruler of this dark world is coming. But he has no power over me, for he has nothing to use against me. I am doing exactly what the Father destined for me to accomplish, so that the world will discover how much I love my Father. Now come with me.”

He also felt rest (Matthew 11:28) and refreshment (Mark 6:31).

Thank you, Lord Jesus, for giving us empathy and grace in all of our emotional difficulties in order to help us love God, ourselves, and the people around us. There is no one thing that you didn’t feel or experience, and nothing you can’t redeem, heal, or repair!

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Ever feel separated from where you belong! Ever felt discarded, misplaced, or that you have lost your usefulness? I have often stated that if for some reason we feel separated from God then our feelings are lying to us and we need to call those feelings liars. This prompted a letter from a very confused individual who had suffered much pain in their life. I quote part of it here.

"l don't think our feelings lie. I don't believe they are good or bad. I believe they just are and are responses to what's going on around and within us. ... When I feel defective and unworthy, the feelings aren't lying to me--that's how I feel. I believe feelings are a fact. The truth upon which that fact is based is what I need to change."

Anyone who has bothered to observe the paradoxes of life knows that feelings and facts are strange bedfellows. At times they seem to be friends who cannot exist without each other and, at other times, mortal enemies.
From my own observations, I have decided that feelings are fickle critters that can't seem to decide where to give loyalty. I have seen this play out in every aspect of our culture such as: Covid-19, Gun Laws, Church function, Family relationships, and Religious influence. If you don’t think feelings and facts are perpetually being manipulated by The Press, The Government,  and a Godless Culture then… Well that’s just naive!  This Culture has simply been responding to to feelings and not the truth of the matter for a long time now. 

Now let me give you an example of how this bears out practically. If a huge truck is bearing down on me, the feeling of fear is a direct result of true and imminent danger; but when I detect no true and immediate danger and yet have feelings of fear, what does that say about the truth of the feeling? Or, one can experience the opposite circumstance--a true and present danger without any feeling of fear. Here again, I must ask about the truth of the feeling. Compounding this struggle further, feelings, fickle as they are, become terrible tyrants when they are the rulers of our lives rather than mere providers of information. For this reason, we must somehow rule them in order to establish their role in a healthy way.

It is very evident that the so called “experts” on things from the media, government and even science are telling us one thing and that our physical observations, feelings, and experiences, are telling us something else. This poses a dilemma in christianity because some will tell you that giving more weight to our physical observations, gut feelings, and experiences, is the way to discovering the apparent truth. This is a Godless philosophy that will never allow us to navigate life or know the truth. Why? Because truth becomes reduced and compromised by what is called cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance supposedly occurs when what we are told does not align with what we experience. It basically states that experience based on our feelings is the only way for truth to become more apparent. This philosophy is a diversion from real Truth as we are about to discover.

The whole subject is much larger than this blog can chew so let's narrow the confines to our opening subject.

To what degree can we trust our feelings, experiences, and observations in this culture and how do we navigate them in relationship to God and all things spiritual? Perhaps I should deliver some further definitions before we continue. I believe that feelings are the results of many things, but truth may or may not have anything to do with them. Truth, to me, is Jesus himself as the living Word and the Bible as the written Word. I would imagine that definition to be acceptable to most who read this although we live in a culture that has all but tried to eliminate the truth of scripture. Facts are merely or supposedly accurate bits of information about the world. Feelings are our emotional responses to information, truth and experiences.

With those definitions, let us propose some situations. What if my friends are planning a surprise birthday party for me, and, as I notice what seems to be strange behavior, I become angry and think they are doing something bad. Regardless of my observations, the truth of the matter is different from the reactions of my emotions. Consequently, I must call my feelings liars. (This is a trait that the Woke Generation hasn’t the capacity to understand!)

Suppose I feel that God doesn't love me or that he is getting even with me. The truth is that God is love and that he is forgiving, and ever present with me, thus my feelings do not represent the truth and are lying to me. Does this mean that feelings are not real. No. Feelings, though real, are neutral (neither good or bad) but they are not always accurate. When they do not reflect what we know to be true, i.e., Jesus and the Bible, then we must be brave enough to call our feelings liars and act out of what we know to be the truth rather than our feelings.
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God is Compassionate, Merciful, Slow to Anger, Abounding in Love and Faithfulness, Forgiving of Wickedness, Rebellion and Sin. Regardless of how I "feel," I choose to believe those truths about God. The Nature of Jesus was that He was a Servant, He did not Lord It over Others, He Lead by Example, He was Humble, As A Child, As the Younger, As the Least, Last, Used No Force on Us, Was Not Driven by Selfish Ambition, Made Himself of No Reputation, Was Fully Human, Obedient, Unto Death. Consequently, I will demand that my feelings conform to that Truth. If you are wondering about these characteristics of Jesus and how they are supported in scripture, take a look at Philippians 5:2-11.

As for me, I will devote myself to what I know to be true of the nature and personality of Jesus Christ. Who made the proclamation in Matthew that it was the confession “You are the Christ” that He would build His Church on. I will continue steadfastly in the apostles’ doctrine and fellowship, and in breaking of bread, and in prayers because I choose to believe those truths about the the world we live in and the Body of Christ. He is with you, He is Truth, and He is the only Way!

Now throw your feelings out and trade up for the Real Truth!